- Mercy Aigbe Is A True Beauty In New Photo
- Uche Jombo Steps Out With Her Baby Boy
- Tonto Dikeh’s Hubby Throws Her A Surprise 31st Birthday Party
- Another Former Super Eagles Coach, Amodu Shuaibu Is Dead
- Stella Damasus Tells Deeply Personal Story Of Being Abused By A Man She Dated
- I Have People Waiting For You – Kemi Olunloyo Threatens Jide Kosoko’s Daughter, Toyin
- Watch The Viral Moment A Nigerian Groom Burst Into Tears After Seeing His Bride
- Keri Hilson Lands Nigeria, Quickly Settles Down For Some Jollof In This Lovely Video
- Watch This Hilarious Clip Of Adekunle Gold Meeting Sade’s Father Played By Falz
- Photos From Lagos Exit Of Henrietta Kosoko’s Burial Train
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Posted: 11 Jun 2016 04:00 AM PDT
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Posted: 11 Jun 2016 02:00 AM PDT
 Nollywood actress, Uche Jombo stepped out yesterday with her little son, Matthew in a baby carrier. He seems to be growing up fast. The post Uche Jombo Steps Out With Her Baby Boy appeared first on Nigerian Celebrity News + Latest Entertainment News.  |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2016 01:00 AM PDT
 Nollywood actress and mother of one, Tonto Dikeh clocked 31 on June 9,2016 and her husband, Olakunle Churchill threw a her a very lovely surprise birthday party. She was overtaken by joy and she went too her Instagram page to shower encomiums on him saying: My husband you are a source of joy,Calm and happiness in my Life..I can’t thank you enough for being a friend,father,Lover and a shoulder to lean on..See more photos from the party:        The post Tonto Dikeh’s Hubby Throws Her A Surprise 31st Birthday Party appeared first on Nigerian Celebrity News + Latest Entertainment News.  |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2016 12:00 AM PDT
 The Nigerian Football Association this morning revealed the passing of former Super Eagles coach, Amodu Shuaibu. This news is coming a few days after the death of renowned Eagles coach and former captain, Stephen Keshi.
The four – time Coach of the Super Eagles complained of chest pains on Friday night and died in his sleep. RIP Before his death, Amodu Shuaibu was a technical director and four-time coach working with the Super Eagles. The post Another Former Super Eagles Coach, Amodu Shuaibu Is Dead appeared first on Nigerian Celebrity News + Latest Entertainment News.  |
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Posted: 10 Jun 2016 01:30 PM PDT
Nollywood actress, Stella Damasus, in a
new blog post, has revealed deeply intimate details about a past
relationship with a man who abused her mentally. Recounting her
experience in the hands of the unnamed man, she thanked God for
delivering her from his hands. She said that he would continuously
belittle her and make her feel inferior and privileged to even be
considered for a relationship because of her condition at the time.
Read her words:
A few days ago I was reminded that it
was okay to be vulnerable and human. I seem to have forgotten how
relaxing it can be to let it all out sometimes, not caring if I would be
judged, laughed at or insulted.
I had to remember that it was important to share some experiences that may actually save or help someone who is probably going through the same thing.
My story begins on a fun and exciting
Saturday night in Lagos Nigeria, where I attended an after party. I met
a tall dark and handsome man who was introduced to me through a mutual
friend. We spoke for a few minutes, exchanged numbers and then parted
ways. I didn’t see or hear from him again until about 6 months later
when I got a call on my way to a friend’s private birthday party. He
asked where I was and I told him where I was going, so he wanted to meet
up at the venue and that was fine.
He came and we continued the
conversation that we didn’t get to finish the first time we met. After
that night we started seeing each other more often as he would call me
and say all the right things, then ask to see me.
So there I was feeling special, thinking that this stud must really like me so much that he had to see me about four times a week. My head was in the clouds because he came to me in a very honest and humble manner, he didn’t have much but was not embarrassed at all because of who I was and what I had. In my head I was thinking “Wow what a confident man”.
Needless to say, I fell for him hopelessly even against advice from everyone around me.
The relationship started and instead
of taking time to really study and know him, I decided to give, give and
give without thinking twice. I gave time, I gave energy, I gave money, I
gave respect, I gave submission, I gave love, I gave honor, and I gave
everything a woman would, just to make her man feel important and loved.
I gave money and everything that comes with making a man stand proud and feel wealthy. I did this so much that even when you ask me a question or want me to appear somewhere I would ask him first or look out for his expression to get approval. All this was to make him feel like the head, make him feel like the man, make him feel respected and know that his financial status does not make him less of a man, make him feel like he has his authority, and make him feel like he had the best woman any man could ever ask for.
Everyone around me hated the fact
that I did more and more to make him happy and then they started
noticing that I was loosing my happiness, I was loosing weight, I was
loosing myself but the funny thing is that I didn’t even notice.
Eventually, I got so angry that I started pushing my friends and family
away.
He kept telling me that everyone around me expected me to do better in choosing a man just because he didn’t have money or a job. I bought into that and attacked everyone, telling them that they were being unfair and judgmental. So I made it my job to make sure he had something to do, he had a car, he had his own apartment, he had the latest devices etc. All of this was to prove everybody wrong so they could see what he could become if we just gave him a chance and helped him. After a while I started noticing that he became aggressive towards my friends, anyone I introduced him to, people I worked with etc. All of a sudden he didn’t like anybody anymore and didn’t want them around us. Then it all grew into calling me names at the slightest provocation even though I was not sure of what I did to provoke him. He would say things like “I am doing you a favor by being with you”, “how easy do you think it is to find a single guy like me to date a woman with kids”?, “you are too controversial to have a sane man stay with you”, “the only thing you have going is your career other than that you are not really worth it”. There were stronger names he called me like BITCH and other curse words he would use, but I would rather not even write them.The worst part in all of this is, after hearing these words over and over again I got used to it and even started thinking that he was right. When he was done insulting me, he would walk up to me and say “see what you made me do, you are the only one who can get me to this point, you know how much I love you so why are you turning me into this monster?”, and yours truly would stupidly start to apologize for making him abuse me mentally. As far as I was concerned at that time, it was strong love and because he loved me madly, him getting upset with me, made me the monster.
I lived in this lie for a long time
and was still too blind to see how awful I started looking and feeling. I
didn’t even want to be seen too much so that no one would ask me if I
was ill. People would come to me with proof of him cheating but for some
silly reason I would make excuses for him. Out of fear of an argument I
would not even want to confront him about it. I was so scared that I
would ask myself “if you confront him and he leaves out of anger, are
you sure you would meet someone else who is better? This was where i
started using the phrase THE DEVIL YOU KNOW IS BETTER THAN THE ANGEL YOU
DON’T KNOW. Silly silly phrase because the truth is, if you know
someone to be a devil you are better off without the person.
Anyway,
I stayed in the relationship until one day when he got upset that a guy
gave me the card to his hotel because he wanted my band to sing there.
He got so mad that he punched the wall in my study. When he did that, it
was as if a very thick veil was pulled from my eyes. That was when I
realized that the kind of anger that made him punch a wall can even push
him to hit me since I was the cause of his anger.
I don’t know if it was the prayers of my mother or my best friend’s, but something gave me courage that day and kept urging me to get him out of my life before it was too late. I yelled for my home staff and they came into the study and I asked them to get him out. I told him boldly never to come near me, my home or my family. That was how God delivered me from my abuser. If he had not punched that wall, I don’t think I would have had the courage to end the relationship .
Sometimes, when women find themselves
in an abusive relationship, it’s easy for others to judge them or ask
them to just pick up and leave. Even though it’s the right thing to do,
it’s not that easy when you are the one in the relationship. Abuse takes
a stronghold on the victim and messes up their mental state. If the
victim is not careful she may accept the blame and never find the
boldness to leave.
It is also worse for those who are not financially independent. Mental abuse can actually turn out to be worse than physical abuse because with the physical you can prove it, you can also see the scars and they can be treated. Don’t get me wrong it is extremely dangerous to go through it but with mental abuse, there is hardly any proof and no one can see the bruises or the scars so you don’t even know how or what to treat. It may affect you mentally for years and that is scary because it definitely affects any other relationship you may have, if ever.
THE ABUSER’S MODE OF OPERATION
1. Identifies your weakness and uses it to gain your love and trust 2. Tells you the things they know you want to hear. 3. Gets rid of everyone around you who has the ability or capability to help/rescue you 4. Makes you emotionally dependent on him 5. Feeds your mind with things that you will believe are beneficial to your relationship 6. Uses your emotions to control your mind and reasoning 7. Tells you negative things about yourself and repeats it so it sticks in your mind 8. Compares you to others just to prove that you are not worth it and not good enough 9. Gives you the impression that he is doing you a favor by being with you. 10. Blames you for things even when you don’t know about them 11. Yells and picks fights at the slightest provocation 12. Starts to get physical but begs for forgiveness, telling you that his love for you makes you the only person that can get him that mad. 13. Makes you think the abuse is your fault and you have to fix it 14. Intentionally allows you to loose yourself/esteem so that he can gain full control of your mind 15. Batters your mind so much that even when he hits you and there are visible scars, you find yourself making excuses for him 16. You become afraid of the unknown so you stay in the relationship because you don’t want to start over in a new relationship 17. He gets you to the phase where you become numb so you can’t even feel that something is wrong.
It continues like this until something really bad happens or the woman runs away.
The good thing is that there is help and support for women and men going through any form of abuse.
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Posted: 10 Jun 2016 01:00 PM PDT
Controversial social media critic and
daughter of the ex-governor of Oyo state, Kemi Olunloyo, has attacked
one of the children of Prince Jide Kosoko and late Henietta Kosoko for
allegedly threatening her.
Olunloyo stated that Toyin Kosoko
threatened her after her tweet calling for the investigation of Jide
over his wife’s death, by posting some unpleasant comments on her
Facebook page.
Olunloyo shared a video on her Facebook
page to clear the air on her first tweet about Jide Kosoko being
investigated for ritual over the death of his Henritta who is his third
wife to have died and told Toyin to tread softly or risk her wrath.
She said:”This video is a very serious
one and is a stern warning to the daughter of Jide Kosoko. Earlier this
week Jide Kosoko lost his 3rd wife Henrietta Kosoko. And I made it known
on social media…
“Last night, Toyin Kosoko came to my
Facebook and left a threat. She said I’m really stupid, I’m looking for
people to visit my page, she said a bunch of crap and then she said wait
till I see her she is going to get back at me.
“Toyin Kosoko you don’t really want to
mess with me. First of all I’m going to drag you on social media…I’m
gonna drag you so low by the time you are supposed to be mourning your
mum.
“Don’t mess around with me, don’t fool
around with me, don’t threaten me that you’re gonna get back at me. You
can’t get back at me unless you want to do rituals.
“If you threaten my life I have people
waiting for you. Toyin, whoever you are wherever you are I will find out
about you fast. This is Ibadan. Toyin Kosoko, this is my message for
you, bring it on.”
Watch the Full Video Here
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Posted: 10 Jun 2016 12:22 PM PDT
 A groom has revealed the real reason he broke down in tears as he saw his bride walking down the aisle on their wedding day. 25-year-old Gabriel Deku, from London, was overcome with emotion as he saw his wife-to-be Annabella, 24, walking towards him at their lavish ceremony at St Martin In The Fields church at Trafalgar Square.  Cameras captured the moment his beautiful bride made her way to the altar in a poignant video – but the minute Gabriel caught a glimpse of her the tears started flowing. The congregation broke into loud cheers when they saw the 25-year-old’s reaction, while his best man, Tolu Ige, encouraged him to hold it together.  Gripping his friend by the shoulder, Tolu, who first introduced the couple four years ago, urged: ‘Come on, stand up, stand up. This is your moment, man. You look at her. By the time the pair embraced, the whole congregation were in tears – including the bridesmaids. Annabella, 24, an account manager, was walked down the aisle by her mother, Damaris.  Gabriel told MailOnline: ‘Leading up to the wedding I was the complete opposite – I actually had a bet with my mum that I wouldn’t cry. ‘Seeing her there, I suddenly felt a big appreciation of what I actually have. Knowing that I’m in a relationship like that made me really overjoyful; where someone loves me unconditionally.’ (Dailymail) Watch the adorable video here The post Watch The Viral Moment A Nigerian Groom Burst Into Tears After Seeing His Bride appeared first on Nigerian Celebrity News + Latest Entertainment News.  |
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Posted: 10 Jun 2016 10:00 AM PDT
 Award-winning singer, Keri Hilson is back again in Nigeria to star as a guest judge on a singing competition organised by Airtel and Trace Nigeria. The singer, who came to Nigeria for the first time in 2012 has always showed her love and support for the Nigerian nation, its people and its wonderful cuisines especially. She was mot recently caught in a heated debate over whether Nigeria’s jollof rice is better than the one made in Ghana. A recent tweet by the singer/songwriter made it known to everyone that she couldn’t wait to taste her favourite – Nigerian Jollof as soon as she gets into the country. Upon her arrival, that was exactly what she did. Watch below: The post Keri Hilson Lands Nigeria, Quickly Settles Down For Some Jollof In This Lovely Video appeared first on Nigerian Celebrity News + Latest Entertainment News.  |
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Posted: 10 Jun 2016 09:16 AM PDT
 In this hilarious video conjured by MTV Base’s The Big Friday Show, YBNL singer finally goes to see Sade’s father for the first time and he is met by the downright comical Falz The Bahd Guy. Have a little fun watching this: The post Watch This Hilarious Clip Of Adekunle Gold Meeting Sade’s Father Played By Falz appeared first on Nigerian Celebrity News + Latest Entertainment News.  |
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Posted: 10 Jun 2016 08:22 AM PDT
 The body of late actress, Henrietta Kosoko departed Lagos for Delta today accompanied by friends and family. See photos below:       The post Photos From Lagos Exit Of Henrietta Kosoko’s Burial Train appeared first on Nigerian Celebrity News + Latest Entertainment News.  |
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